07-12-2009 11:39 hour
jane c ( whangarei )

Oh Leigh... you are so hard on yourself ... when those of us who read your blog are filled with admiration at your courage and insight and guts you are berating yourself at the two times where you were human... where you felt overwhelmed and couldn't be anything other than an overwhelmed human for a couple of minutes... isn't it ok for Rory to see that it is overwhelming occaisionally - doesn't that help him to see that he is right when he feels like that?? i don't know the answer to that - i just imagine that Rory feels loved and supported beyond measure and that that means you are doing an exemplary job... hell i had to take Eila to the dentist this morning and that ended in me having to be all stern with her to make her go through with it.. and that's only the bloody dentist... please Leigh be kind to yourself - you have too far still to go to be mean to yourself when you are doing the very best you can...       

07-12-2009 06:46 hour
Auntie Teri & Uncle Graham ( La Paz , Bolivia )

HAPPY LATE 10TH BIRTHDAY SAMMY!!!  Uncle Graham and I have been catching up with all the happenings you and Rory have been up to - you have both been very busy!  We are currently in La Paz - have seen lots of llamas, alpacas, lizards etc, thankfully no tarantulas...yet!  We are thinking of you both as we continue our travels through South America.  We think the absolute world of you both and are so proud of you - take care and lots and lots of love and hugs - Auntie Teri & Uncle Graham xxxx

06-12-2009 21:25 hour
julie williams ( Whangarei )

Oh Leigh, I know how you feel. i too only got to the first log, crossed it then couldn't go on and had to turn around and return the way they sat you're not supposed to. But never feel like you've failed him. You have been fantastic. I know our struggles this year are very different but your thoughts often parallel mine on how to best support your sons when all you want to do is cuddle into bed and stay there and pretend this year had never happened. There is no manual for me on how to help my boys through their grief and confusion and not one for you either. So we do what we feel is right and give them love all the time and that is the right thing. If you wish to have a cuppa now you are in Whg and my school year is winding down, e mail is Remenber all we can do is our best and you are certainly doing that.

05-12-2009 19:32 hour
Amber ( Taranaki , New Zealand )

Hi Gardiner family
My name is Amber I would like to hold a fundraiser here in taranaki for your family for more info please feel free to get in touch.
love and light

02-12-2009 16:16 hour
The Johnstons ( Dargaville , New Zealand )

Happy Birthday to you Sam!!! Woop woop 10 woop woop!!!
Sounds like you had a fantastic day.  We are looking forward to seeing you all on Sat as well!  New bikes ROCK! 
And may I suggest Dargaville as a settling down place?????? hehehe

02-12-2009 09:39 hour
jane c

Happy birthday Sam!!

02-12-2009 00:16 hour
jason wendy logan and mikayla ( np )

hi guys - a big happy birthday to you sam - welcome to the double digit club - boy the cousins sure are growing up fast, lucky you getting a new mountain bike, logan did the new bike last year cos he outgrew his one quicker than expected, so this year we talked him into money and a smaller gift or two, we have 2 now in the double digits club. We are in the midst of sorting mikaylas 1st birthday party for this saturday, she is 1 next wednesday on the 9th of dec, this year has shot by for all of us so fast, each for different reasons thats for sure, but regardless for all of us our kids are just growing up so fast and another year has already almost finished.  madness in the rush to xmas and all the birthdays before then. you enjoy riding that bike sam, and be careful on them hills !!!! hey rory sounds like you have been doing lots of things too since you have been out and at grannie and grandads, did you make sams birthday cake for him with you being the top chef in the house? hope you got to eat lots of cake - love and hugs wendy jason logan and mikayla

01-12-2009 22:16 hour

Happy Birthday Sam!!!  Wow - a new mountain bike - thats pretty cool.

01-12-2009 21:16 hour
Tracy ( waihue, dargaville )

Happy Birthday Sam, looking forward to seeing you guys over here on Saturday.  Matai is keen to spend time with you for your birthday this weekend. Love to all

01-12-2009 09:47 hour
Jane c ( Whangarei )

It is ok to be wherever you are Leigh, withdrawn, tired, protective is totally appropriate... don't berate yourself for not being your old self... you have life changing experiences to digest... be kind while you do it...
Eva was pleased to meet you and felt a click (i knew you would have more than a disease in common!) she asked me to pass on her number so if you felt like a chat or something she was keen 4591196
if you feel like a trip out Glenbervie way 4595266 is me and our friendly sheep